😍 Flamme research · State of Couples 2026
how do couples react to each other's answers?
Couples on Flamme send more than 3.6 love reactions for every laugh reaction, and 😍 alone makes up almost half of all reactions.
Reaction totals and question rankings use the full data set (questions with 3,000+ answers). The "this or that" match rate comes from a smaller sample of 615 couples. Data: 2,722,793 answers, 2 February 2023 to 14 October 2026. How we did this.
by An Nayal, founder of Flamme · Updated
the numbers
| group | chart | ratio |
|---|---|---|
| love reactions | 3.6 | |
| laugh reactions | 1 |
- On "this or that" questions, partners pick the same option only about 1 time in 5 (sample of 615 couples).
- Most loved questions: "Why are you still in this relationship?", "If someone asked you to describe your partner, what would you say about them?" and "What's a fun memory you'd like to recreate with your partner?"
- Most laughed-at question: "What do you think your partner's farts smell like?"
what does it mean for couples?
Partners mostly respond to each other with warmth. The answers that get the most love are about appreciation and memories, so those are the questions to reach for when things feel flat.
And you probably disagree more than you think on small choices. Four times in five, couples pick differently on a "this or that". That is the fun of asking.
cite this
Free to quote with a link. For other cuts of the data, email hello@flamme.app.
Flamme, "The State of Couples 2026: How Couples React to Each Other", flamme.app/state-of-couples/how-couples-react, published 30 October 2026. Based on 2,722,793 answers by 88,622 people, 2 February 2023 to 14 October 2026.
how was this measured?
Flamme is a couples app where both partners answer the same daily question and then see each other's answer. We analysed 2,722,793 answers to 1,919 questions from 88,622 people, written between 2 February 2023 to 14 October 2026. Reaction totals and question rankings use the full data set (questions with 3,000+ answers). The "this or that" match rate comes from a smaller sample of 615 couples. Everything is a count or an average. Flamme users chose a couples app, so they are not a random sample of all couples, and most answers are in English. Full method and limits on the State of Couples 2026 report.
good questions, answered
No. In a sample of 615 Flamme couples, partners picked the same option only about 1 time in 5.
An Nayal
Founder of Flamme, the couples app used by more than 200,000 partners. He writes the relationship guides here and builds the free tools that go with them. annayal.com
