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For a first pottery date, book a beginner wheel or hand-building class at a local studio: two to three hours, usually $50 to $100 a person, with clay and firing included. Expect your pieces back two to four weeks later, because clay has to dry, be fired, glazed and fired again. If you want to start tonight, air-dry clay at the kitchen table gets you most of the way.

by An Nayal, founder of Flamme · Updated

time
2 to 3 hours in class, pieces ready 2 to 4 weeks later
cost
$50 to $100 per person per class, $10 to $20 for air-dry clay at home
where
A ceramics studio, community art center or adult-ed program
wear
Old clothes, short nails, no rings. Clay gets everywhere.

wheel throwing or hand-building?

techniquewhat you makefirst-day resultgood for
Wheel throwingBowls, cups, vasesOne small, slightly wobbly bowl each, often after a few collapsesCouples who like a challenge and laughing at failure
Pinch potSmall bowls, cups, ring dishesA usable little bowl in about 20 minutesA relaxed first session
Coil buildingTaller pots, plantersA pot built up from rolled ropes of clayPatient people who like building upward
Slab buildingPlates, boxes, mugs, tilesFlat or boxy pieces cut from rolled sheetsPlanners who like measuring and templates

how to do a pottery night at home with air-dry clay

step 1

Set up

Buy 1 to 2 kg (2 to 4 lb) of air-dry clay such as DAS or Crayola Air-Dry Clay, around $10 to $20. Cover the table with canvas or a cut-open grocery bag, and keep a small bowl of water and a sponge within reach.

step 2

Each make a pinch pot

Roll a ball the size of an orange. Push your thumb into the middle until it is about 1 cm from the bottom, then pinch and turn, pinch and turn, keeping the walls about as thick as a pencil. Smooth any cracks with a wet finger.

step 3

Make one piece together

Roll a slab about 6 mm thick, using two paint stirrers as rails under the rolling pin so it stays even. Cut a shared dish or a set of coasters, and each of you carves half the decoration.

step 4

Dry and finish

Let the pieces dry slowly away from heat for 24 to 72 hours, turning them so they dry evenly. Sand rough edges, paint with acrylics and seal with varnish. Use them for rings and keys, not food or drink.

how long until our pottery is ready?

  • Drying: about a week until the clay is bone dry. Thick pieces take longer. Trapped air can make a piece crack or burst in the kiln, which is why teachers make you wedge (knead) the clay first.
  • Bisque firing: the first firing turns dry clay into hard, porous ceramic. Most studios run one every week or so.
  • Glazing: you come back for a glazing session, or the studio dips your piece in the glaze you picked.
  • Glaze firing: a second, hotter firing melts the glaze into a glassy coat.
  • Total: two to four weeks at most studios. Clay also shrinks as it dries and fires, often around 10 to 15 percent, so make a mug a little bigger than you want it.

where to find pottery festivals and open studios

Pottery fairs get more fun after your first class, because you can see how hard the good pieces are to make. Most regions have spring and fall potters' markets, open studio weekends and kiln openings where potters sell straight from the shelf. Search your area plus 'pottery tour', 'open studios' or 'potters market', and check the events page of your nearest ceramics guild.

A few long-running ones worth a trip: Seagrove, North Carolina, a small town full of working pottery studios that holds the Celebration of Seagrove Potters each November; the St. Croix Valley Pottery Tour in Minnesota each May; Ceramic Art London and Potfest in Cumbria in the UK; and the Mashiko Pottery Fair in Japan, held in spring and autumn. Check dates on each event's own site before you book travel.

variations & upgrades

the six-week course

If the first class lands, sign up for a beginner course together. A weekly session for six weeks usually costs $250 to $450 each, often with some open studio time and clay included. It is around week four that wheel throwing starts to click.

make each other's mug

In class, each of you makes a mug for the other: their size, their handle, their glaze color. You see the finished mugs only when you collect them weeks later, so the date happens twice.

long-distance version

Both buy the same air-dry clay and make pinch pots on a video call. Paint them for each other, then post them. A slightly wonky bowl in the mail is a very good long-distance gift.

good questions, answered

Yes. You are both beginners, you both get messy, and you leave with something to collect weeks later. Pick hand-building if you want to relax, wheel throwing if you want to laugh at each other's collapsing bowls.

An Nayal

An Nayal

Founder of Flamme, the couples app used by more than 200,000 partners. He writes the relationship guides here and builds the free tools that go with them. annayal.com

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